"A deep longing for light", that's the dominant
feature of many dark souls in this age. Some people are even travelling to
distant places chasing for light, paying the very high price in order to meet
the bright light.
Very few of the spiritual seekers realize that family can also be transformed into a
beautiful garden of light. Mainly through the consistency and the sincerity to
always forgive, accept and love each other.
Every spiritual friend who has been married to their life partner
for more than a quarter of a century understand, when we fall in love in young
age, we fall in love with "the ideal image", which we created in our
mind about the person whom we love. We did not love them as they were.
That is the reason why women who have problems with their
father tend to search for "the ideal image of a father" in their
future husband. Men who have a tough personality tend to love women who are
considered to have a soft heart. In short, there's missing parts in our soul
that we try to find in the person we love.
As has been experienced by many married couples (in the early
years of marriage), most people find that they do not live up to the ideal
image that they created at the beginning. That is why in the early years of
marriage, family is similar to a dry garden which needs a lot of water to
maintain it and make it flourish.
However, once a person has made a decision to get married,
the best option is to offer continuous forgiveness, acceptance and love to your
life partner. In many marriages, from time to time, loving your spouse during
the early days of marriage can be very painful. Some people even get sick,
tired, stressed or suffer with depression.
And similarly to the journey of finding the treasures, the
spiritual trip to find family as the garden of light, is also full of trials
and troubles. But there is no other choice except to continuously forgive,
accept and cherish your spouse continuously.
Through the perseverance to always forgive, accept and love,
we keep planting the seeds of light in the family. Naughty children in young
age, the unstable emotion of wife who approaching menopause, the increasing
sexual energy of husband when approaching middle age crisis are some examples
of trials and troubles.
But there is no other choice except to forgive, accept, and
love the family. Forgiving the imperfect family member is of course difficult.
And forgiving is hard, not because of the big mistakes of the others, but
because of the big ego inside ourselves.
In conclusion, it is the consistency and the sincerity to
constantly forgiving, accepting and loving family members for years, that can
transform the family into a beautiful garden of light. Moreover, it is the
perseverance to continuously forgive, accept and love which make souls see the
true light inside.
Author: Gede Prama.
Photo Courtesy: Twitter @Brightnewvensa
Proofread by: Kirsty Spence.
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