"That person is very disappointing. I took good care of him since he
was a small child. He does not only forget my kindness, he is also very
arrogant to me", that's the complain of an old mother few days before she
got stroke.
This is a typical story of many parents who are lack of knowledge and
wisdom. Do not talk about the mistakes that they have been committed in the
past, even kind deeds that they have ever done chase them like enemies who
bring dangerous guns.
When the body is no longer strong enough to carry such heavy burden like
disappointments, anger, hatred, revenge, by then the body begins to collapse in
the forms of dangerous diseases like stroke, heart attack, cancer.
And before this sad life actually happens, it is worth to contemplate the
importance of loosening the grip of mind. As has been shared by a British lady
who spent dozen years meditating alone in the slope of Himalaya, one of the
important fruit of meditation, the grip of mind is loosening from time to
time.
Before being touched by meditation, the grip of mind is very strong.
Similar to the above complaining mother, when the mind strongly grip people,
they keep seeing dangerous mistakes in others, at the same time there's a
strong conviction that they are always right. As a result, the body carry a
very heavy psychological burden.
What is suggested by meditation is really simple. Initially the mind is
like heavy rain. Everything is kicked by anger, revenge, hatred. Having
witnessed the flowing emotions and thoughts with equanimity, the heavy rain
begin to join the flowing river. Peace, calmness, balance begin to come at this
stage. At the peak of meditation, someone come out of from the flowing river of
thoughts and emotions, then just standing at the bank of river as a
compassionate witness.
The transformation from heavy rain fall into the flowing river is
hard. Mainly because the mind is strongly gripped by duality such as sad-glad,
false-true, wrong-right. This is the source of painful judgments. And the
judgment harm the one who judge worse than those who are judged.
At this critical point, spiritual seekers need the power of forgiving. Not
only to forgive those who keep disappointing, but also to forgive all mistakes
that have been committed in the past. Beautiful souls who are successful to
forgive, they know that forgiving is holy water which is sprinkled to the inner
soul.
When someone forgive, it does not mean that they are wrong and those
enemies are true. Once again it is not. When someone forgive, actually they
bring their soul come out from the burning house of anger and revenge.
Consequently, they are not only recover from soul wound, they also
contribute in healing the world. And it is not coincidence that one of the
bright light that has appeared in our century is Nelson Mandela. And behind the
bright light of Nelson Mandela is the power of forgiving.
Author: Gede Prama
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