This message is very important especially in the midst
of the rapid rise of divorce rates everywhere, the meaning of family getting
narrower here and there (it includes only husband, wife and children), the
number of people who have sympathy and empathy for others are decreasing
everywhere, the presence of true friends is truly needed. Without the presence
of a true friend in old age in particular, life would be like a dry and arid
garden.
For that reason, it is important to open the eyes of
sensitivity as soon as possible, to see the people around who have the
potential to be transformed into true friends. The golden moments that often
help in this regard are the cycles of times when life fall into a deep valley
of shortcomings and limitations.
To be more concrete, take a look at a few close
friends who still come with a gentle smile when the financial situation is very
mediocre, people's praise has begun to disappear, the body began to be weak
because of illness. Assuming someone has a beautiful seed of heart (more
helping and less harming), there will always be at least one person who still
comes with a gentle smile in the moment when the soul entered saddening abyss.
This kind of person should be treated as beautiful as
possible, as gentle as possible, as kind as possible. At least treat them with
eyes which is full of gratitude, ears which is happy by deeply listening, lips
which keep smiling, a heart that is showered by loving-kindness and compassion.
Whenever you meet this type of friends, always deeply
ask yourself: "How can I make this person smile?". Not only jokes and
laughter that can make other people smile, but warm and friendly body language,
beautiful attitude also can make others smile even more deeply.
Attention is the active partner of action, that is an
old message in the deep spiritual world. It simply means, your focus of
attention also help you to create what kind of friend that you will have in the
future. Especially if the focus of your attention is in line with your action,
the creating effect will be amazing. For that reason, in line with developing a
beautiful attitude, always see the beautiful sides of your friends.
As material of contemplation, like well-fertilized
garden that has the potential to produce beautiful flowers, everyone has their
own beautiful sides. The spiritual task then, find these beautiful sides. It
can be a very proud past. It could be the parents that they loves very much. Or
the quality of being independence since a very young age. Every time you have
dialogue, softly remind your friend of these beautiful seeds.
Whenever there is time together, try alternately to
water each one of us by listening to each others. When they make a mistake,
forgiveness is a very secure spiritual parachute. When your friends are having
bad luck and misfortune, it becomes a golden time to treat each others and
water each others.
And above all, only those who found a true friend
inside who will find a true friend outside. Deeply learning from this, along
with the development of true friends outside, remember also to be the good
friend of your life as it is. Every time
you go to the mirror, look deep into the eyes of person in the mirror with deep
compassion. Unconditionally hug every wound that is hidden there, then recite
the following mantra: "I love you just the way you are". If you are
blessed, in the right time you will find the true friends. A kind of close
family both in sorrow and joy which are chosen by the heart.
Author: Guruji Gede Prama.
Photo Courtesy: Twitter @Ramblingsloa.
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