"Am I
normal?", that's a client's question to a psychologist in the West. This
question was very touching. Especially because behind this question is hidden
doubts, fears and sadness. Deeper than that, there is self-rejection. A series
of rejections that can grow into suffering and illness.
At different
levels, all human beings have this type of doubt and fear. It is a long result
of people's scolding, insults, humiliation and criticism for decades. To
provide a gift of understanding, in developing countries education is something
new, the awareness of psychological and spiritual sides of life are also new,
even friends in the West who are touched by education much earlier also experience
something like this.
In plain
language, people are called normal if they are compatible with most of the
norms of society. To the extent that society supports the growth of the soul
within, a normal title like this is required. Sadly, many members of society
are not sensitive enough to understand, that their words and deeds can easily
hurt the others souls. As a result, the normal title of another person can be
very harmful.
The
experience of guiding thousands of friends who are the parents of children with
special needs reveals the secret, some members of the community not only do not
care about the wounds of the parents of children with special needs, but
instead they add new wounds, especially by calling them full of sin, bad karma,
and not normal.
It is at this
level of understanding that people are invited to rethink what is normal. As
seen in nature, every thing in nature has its own function and meaning. In the
same way, every aspect of yourself - including what others call abnormal - has
its own function, meaning and usefulness.
As long as
they are present at the right place and the right time, all are here to
beautify life. Cow dung as an example, as long as it is placed under a flower,
one day it will bloom into a beautiful flower. The same is true of all the
so-called "abnormal" things.
In the deep
spiritual world it is often said that deficiencies, imperfection and
abnormalities can be the key to opening into the unknown areas of mystery. Of
course there is a condition. It will become an important key to open the door
of mystery if someone learns to accept imperfection as it is.
The great
physicist Stephen Hawkings is a wonderful example. For almost his whole life he
grew up in a wheelchair with a limited physical body, but his work is admired
by the world. A very beautiful hearted woman named Hellen Keller is another
example. Although she can not see, her life shared very honestly that she was
very happy.
Knowing that
the Dalai Lama had lost his country at the age of 15, walking thousands of
miles, living a very simple life in someone's else country, Larry King once
asked the Dalai Lama: "Are you happy?". With a gentle smile the last
nobel prize winner replied: "No doubt". Hearing such an answer, Larry
King asked back what he is meant by happiness. Again with a smiley face he
replied: "Eat well, sleep well".
Deeply
learning from here, the only thing that is wrong in life is if someone thinks
that something is wrong in their life. Repeating the above message, every
imperfection has its own function and meaning in this realm. In a simple but
deep language, you are completely acceptable as you are. And the first person
who should accept yourself as you are is you yourself. This is a very
convincing healing seed. At the same time this is a beautiful blooming flower
inside.
Author: Guruji Gede Prama.
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Proofread By: Kirsty Spence.
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