Soul Mate

"The souls who are full of holes wants to heal other souls who are full of holes,” that’s how some Western writers describe their government in their country. Endless corruptions, politicians who never stop quarrelling, poor services are all signs that their souls are full holes. The mass population who always protest, never feel satisfied, some even taking part in dangerous violence is also signs of soul holes.

As a result, there is a frightening level of violence everywhere. People talk about violence in developing countries, but even in countries where the system has advanced (and is mature) such as United States, there are touching incidents like Orlando (June 2016). In a very short time, the innocent people who committed no mistakes were shot dead in a public area.

The disturbing stories of soul holes do not only mark the public spaces, they are also present within the private areas which are very personal. One of the dominant signs are restless and sleepless souls here and there. To make it short, there is always the feeling of being incomplete inside that needs to be covered.

This is the reason why the hard and stubborn man tends to be interested in the women who are considered to be soft. That is also the reason why a lot of women who like to talk then fall in love to men who tend to be quiet. The essence is the same, there are soul holes within, which want to be covered.

From this story of soul holes came the idea of the soul mate. Deep inside the soul there is the feeling of being incomplete, then people are very busy looking for the lost parts of the soul in the others. Sadly, the rapid increase in divorce rates clearly illustrates the secret that the other person cannot totally cover the feeling of being incomplete inside.

Each friend who has been married to the same partner more than a quarter of a century knows, even though we have spent such a long time together, there remains differences between the two people. And we can never make the two people totally the same. Suppose there is a super rich man who gets married up to a thousand times with a thousand different partners, there's always something missing inside.

When it is traced back to history, the idea of a soul mate firstly appeared in Ancient Greece. Initially the human soul is complete and whole, but a mythology mentioned that there is a super natural power that divides the human psyche. That's the beginning of the feelings of being incomplete inside.

All friends who are mature on the path of meditation understand, those feelings of being incomplete, are deeply rooted in the untrained mind. The characteristic of the untrained mind is simple, they love the peak of mountain (by which read: advantages) but they do not want any valley of shortages, they like the beautiful flowers of being praised but they are not happy with the dried flowers of being blamed. As we all know, behind the peak of mountain there is always a valley, as a matter of time all the beautiful flowers will wither.

Whether you are enlightened or unenlightened, the nature of the mind will remain like this. That is why at the level of perfection meditation keep guiding disciples to take a perfect rest. Learn to perfectly rest from the excessive desire simply wanting the top mountain of advantages, learn to perfectly rest from the desire to meet only the beautiful flower of praise. At the same time learn to always hug the wholeness of each present moment.

As soon as someone enters the gate of wholeness, they experience the feeling of being incomplete inside being replaced by the feeling of deep inner contentment. Once the inner seekers arrive here, it does not mean that they are going to divorce, or saying goodbye to family life. But as the natural nature of water which is wet, the natural nature of a flower which is beautiful, the natural nature of souls who live in the home of wholeness is full of compassion. Strangely, once the soul enters the gate of wholeness, the heart is full of compassion, our spouse will naturally bloom into a beautiful soul mate.

Author: Gede Prama

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