Healing Anger

There are many teenagers who hate their parents because of grumpy. Most subordinates are strongly reject the angry boss. In short, all people see anger as threatening poison. In fact, when equipped with enough clarity, anger can be transformed into lantern.

Lantern of Anger

To be frank, the grumpy person are hated in all age. if there is a chance to run away, all will run away from angry people. But what happen in life, angry people come again and again. If they are unavoidable, there must be a message hidden behind the grumpy.

Learning from so many angry people, to be honest the soul of grumpy person are deeply wounded. Ignorance makes them want to heal the wound by attacking others. As a result, they do not get the medicine from others, instead they get a new wound. When explored further, someone's anger to others is only a mirror that he/she still has anger inside. Either harmed by parents, abused by others, in short they rejected the dark past such strongly. And the more he/she rejects the past, the harder the past will push him/her back.

Deeply contemplate this finding, it is worth to use anger as a torch pointing the way. Anger is like finger pointing the dark parts of ourselves that need to be lighted. And this may happen, when anger is friendly accepted, gently embraced, and finally forgiven.

Changing Perspective is Changing Life

Equipped with wisdom that anger is a lantern, then the inner darkness such as fear, doubt, suspicion slowly illuminated. A friend who was once a big grumpy man give very important lesson, he deeply hate one incident in the past. Suppose that the incident did not happen, maybe life would be better, that's how he keeps thinking in long grumpy years. It's a natural characteristic of the grumpy, keep visualizing to change the dark past.

We all know, the past can not be changed. But we can change the way to look at. To make it simple, when we change the perspective then life change. A friend on the path of meditation once shared his story that his soul is deeply wounded because his father was killed in 1965. As a result, he must take good care of mother and brothers for life. But when he changed his perspective, not to see the bad past as disaster, but rather a way of life to make his soul so mature, then his life changed.

To be honest, even the prophets should be made mature through deep pain, do not talk about the ordinaries. That's why, general Mc. Arthur pray for the children differently : "Lord, give children problems and obstacles, because it's the only way to make them mature". Within this perspective, then one can say thank you to anger, it makes many beautiful soul grow and glow.

Window of Compassion

Under the light of this understanding, anger is no longer dark, it functions as lantern of the path. Initially soul is deeply wounded by anger. The wound then makes ones looking for a cure by means of scolding others. But scolding others does not heal, instead it makes others create new wound.

Lighted by this understanding, grumpy person is an energy that open the window of compassion. At the same time this is the characteristic of people who are healed from anger. While most people only see darkness behind anger, this latest person see lantern of the path.

On the path of meditation, this approach is called "transforming poison into the path". It is similar to peacock which transform poison into food, through meditation steps of "accept, flow, smile" then darkness of anger is  transformed into lantern of the path.